By Allison Arthur
I do not own a stroller or a crib. I was never offered a baby shower. But I have a child. And at three years old, she is growing up fast. If you haven’t met her yet, you should. Her name is Dishing (pretty name, right? It’s kind of different for a girl, thank you!).
Dishing is everything I hoped she would be: cute as a button, very time consuming and the love of my life. Dishing is my 3-year-old food magazine based out of Jackson Hole, Wyo. And trust me, she is as much work as a baby.
Like your kids, I have to take care of her 24/7. Yes, I feel your pain. That is one of the most frustrating things about being a mother – you never really sleep again when you have kids! Sometimes she wakes me up in the middle of the night for hours screaming about some story I have to write for her, right now.
And, like other kids her age, she can be a little difficult. Sometimes she pitches a hissy fit in the middle of a creative meeting because she doesn’t like the dress I picked out for her to wear (or, the new magazine cover we are contemplating). And even worse? Occasionally she won’t cooperate in front of the camera at our all-important photo shoots, and I have now wasted precious time and money I can’t get back.
I delivered Dishing right about the time that I biologically should have been giving a last ditch effort to have a child if I really wanted one. My husband and I had been half-heartedly trying to conceive. After a few months of no luck, I decided to create a baby instead.
See, my passion has never really been for live babies. Instead, I have always had a serious love of food. And as a writer and marketing executive professionally, I had the skills needed to start a magazine. So, along with a good friend and fellow foodie, I did just that.
Thankfully, I am not a single parent. My business partner and I refer to each other as our “other husbands.” And like any good parents, we each have our parental roles. I am more of the disciplinarian. I make sure we don’t spoil our child with overindulgent luxury items and try to correct bad behavior. My husband, Cara, teaches her how to play well with others and encourages her creative spirit.
So far, so good. She has been growing like crazy and is very big for her age (165 pages!). Dishing has been meeting all of her important milestones (she made money her first year). And, I know I am bragging here but what mother doesn’t, she is very smart and everyone loves her!
Once I had Dishing, I knew she should be an only child. She takes up way too much of my time for me to even consider a sibling. I know many say “you make it work” or “life only hands you what you can handle,” but I am pretty happy with one child. She keeps me busy, entertained and is a ton of fun to be around (imagine all the amazing dinners you have with her!).
Who knows what the future will hold? Maybe I will be sad and lonely when she leaves me to go off to college. But maybe I will use her college fund instead to travel around the world.
A native of Charleston, S.C., Allison Arthur has lived in Jackson Hole for 15 years. During her marketing and publishing career, she worked for Four Seasons Jackson Hole, Snake River Sporting Club and the Jackson Hole Catalogue. As a professional cook, she’s catered dozens of events and currently writes a food column for the Jackson Hole News&Guide. Allison’s favorite question is, “What have you cooked lately?” She never measures (even when she’s baking) and rarely follows a recipe. She doesn’t skimp on butter, salt or chocolate.