Spawn and Survive is my irreverent take on pregnancy, parenting, and everything in between. Here you’ll find entertaining anecdotes, helpful (or not) tips, gear reviews, trip reports, and anything else you need to survive the most painful—possibly joyous—transition of your life: parenthood.
I love kids, always have. Before I was a full fledged grown up, I studied childbirth rituals in Madagascar, broke up with boyfriends who never wanted kids, and contemplated choosing to be a single mother when it seemed I’d never find a partner. Then I fell in love with Jeff, a brilliant and attractive nerd, shortly after I turned 30. We got hitched when I was 32, I was pregnant at 33, and a mother at 34. When our son was 16 months old, I got pregnant again, and our second son arrived when I was 36. The past five years have been a blur of laughter, tears, money woes, money highs, feeling strong and athletic, and being so exhausted that even my toenails ached.
If I could sum up my parenting philosophy in one sentence it would be this: love your kids, do the best you can with what you have, and be nice to others, even when you don’t want to. And this: don’t get too attached to any particular way of doing things.
Before kids, I was certain I’d give birth naturally, use cloth diapers, make my own baby food, and continue to cultivate a thriving career. Two C-sections (one emergency, one after a failed VBAC), many cases of pampers, multiple hot dog dinners, and a trove of silly writing assignments later, I am humbled. I love being a mom. I also love doing things that have nothing to do with being a mom. Striking a (tenuous) balance between the two is something I try to do well. Sometimes I succeed, other times I fail. Mostly I enjoy it.
Since I started earning a paycheck a long time ago, I’ve been a newspaper reporter, an editor at Skiing magazine, a freelance writer, a waitress, a babysitter, a dog walker, and a nude model for a figure drawing class (once). These days I earn money writing blogs, articles, marketing materials and other stuff. My work has appeared in Babble.com, grist.org, the New York Times, Backpacker, 5280, American Way, and more. I’ve also written a memoir about the upside of failure.